This will be long!
I met my husband in 96, moved in together right away, didn't know too much about his family life. One morning while I was getting ready for work, and Tim was gone to start the car, I heard the birds chirping outside the window and then saw a man, that looked just like my Tim, only the man had short hair... He was standing in the kitchen staring at me. I didn't know the man. Heard the birds chirp again and had a very calm feeling come over me... On our way to work, we got into a car accident. I was nearly killed with ribs that nearly pierced the sac around my heart, hip problems, etc... When I told my husband's 1/2 sister about the man I saw, I described him and she was shocked, she showed me a picture of Tim's father who had died when Tim was only 8 mths old. He died when his arm was severed from his body while he worked the conveyor (mining work) and bled to death.
I didn't see the man for about 10 mths, basically when my daughter was born, he started coming around again but not to me, to her. The lights in her room would flash off and on, she would sit in her bed at night and talk to someone whom she referred as "Mister". When we went to the cemetary, after finally finding his unmarked grave, she said "We're going to Mister's house" without us having told her anything about it.
I have seen this man many times, had him speak to me, without being able to understand a word, and when I gave birth to my 2nd daughter, Emily-Rose, I asked my oldest if Mister came to see Emily and she said "No, Lili's too small, Mister's waiting"
He's come to my bed when my husband's gone to work as though he belongs with me ??? My youngest, now 3, speaks of him and I'm hearing things. My oldest yells at night "I'm trying to, leave me alone, daddy doesn't understand"
He has been with us now for a long time, was watching over my husband for sure in 2000 when my hubby was hit by a drunk driver and nearly died. I don't mind having him around only recently, he seems to be getting "upset" if I can say that. The message isn't coming across very clearly and I do wish I could understand but I think my husband is key, only problem is that he doesn't want to open himself to this. I'm sure his father is trying to tell him something!
This is alot to say but it only covers some parts I could keep writing for hours about things that have happened...
Any ideas how the heck I could find out for sure what the message is, even if I'm not the one he's trying to get it through too?
Nancy

Hi Nancy,

Gee, you've sure had some experiences with this fellow! What did you think or feel when you saw him in your kitchen that morning prior to the car wreck? Maybe he appeared to you to try and warn you that something bad was going to happen. Did you ever tell Tim what/who you saw?

I think he comes to you because he knows he can get through to you - you're able to see him and perhaps communicate with him. I'm sure he watches over Tim, you and both the babies; your oldest daughter has a pretty strong connection with him. Is she becoming bothered by his presence?

You know his father's name, right? The best thing to do is to talk to him like you would any other person in the room with you - politely, never yell or anything like that. Ask him what is it he wants? Why is he here? Is there something he wants to tell you? Something he wats to tell Tim? If so, what? Ask him to answer you in your dreams (or in Tim's dreams, if you think he'd listen to it ;-) ).

You might also try taking some pics around your house. Ask him to be in the picture, but be sure to thank him. =)

I'm curious to know what you mean by he's been getting upset lately. Do you know why? What's he doing that leads you to believe he's upset?

Kell

Hi Kell, thanks for the suggestions.
At this point, anything's worth a try. My oldest, Tina is becoming bothered and my youngest, Lili is afraid. That's what I think is pretty crappy in all of this.
There is one person that I'd like to catch on camera.... Last fall, when I was going to the gravesite to take care of watering some flowers and cedar trees I saw an old man standing at the gate to the cemetary. That cemetary is huge and Michael, Tim's father, is burried at the far end... The old man stared at me and so I hurried to get done over there. When I turned to get back to the car, the man had somehow made his way to the far end of the cemetary??? Just staring at me, I practically ran to the car, got in, locked the doors and flew out of there like a bat out of hell! =O
We started an investigation on our own a few years ago to find out exactly what happened but never got anywhere. This "accident" at the mine happened in 1969 when Tim was only 8 mths old. There were, conveniently enough, no records of anything! I do think this was a wrongful death and that Michael wants justice.
The reason I say I think he's getting upset is because I'm not only seeing him, but hearing noises as well, unusual noises coming from anywhere in the house. It's freaky sometimes more than others.
I will follow your suggestions and take pics here and there, especially in the night when the "activity" is a lot more present. Hopefully, that could help get answers.
Nancy

Nancy, try to tell him that he is starting to frighten the children. That you don't understand what his trying to tell you and you know he is upset or frustrated. Ask him to come to you in your dreams and maybe you could communicate with him that way. Does your husband not believe any of this? Does he think the girls are making this up? I lived with my father who was this way. My mother and I would see and hear all kinds of things and my father refused to believe us. Hang in there. I'm sure you will get the answer.

Kim, Tim's actually had one or two brief experiences where his father is concerned. Once was while we were laying in bed and he had a strange feeling come over him and asked me if I felt anything. I said "Who are you thinking about?" and he said he was thinking about his father... I guess for some people, that isn't enough? He's also heard voices but always believes there has to be a logical explanation to it... God I love him but he can be thick at times! :lol: =P
I have told Michael that this is starting to bother the girls (his only blood grand-daughters)but it's persisting...
We'll see if anything happens with me asking for him to come to my dreams and Tim's dreams... Hopefully it will happen!
Nancy