I've got a question for you guys. What do you think of a 13-year-old who very often dreams things that come true? Now I'm not talking about major events, just everyday situations that she couldn't possibly know are going to happen.

For example, I take my daughter ice skating every Friday night. Well a couple weeks ago she dreamed on Thursday night that a friend of hers she had lost touch with a couple years ago came skating. She told me this dream on Friday morning. Well that night who showed up at the ice arena, but her friend! Jenny and I both nearly fell over when we saw her walk through the door! These types of situations probably happen on average about 2-3 times a month.

This is getting to be very interesting because I find myself asking her everyday "What did you dream about last night"? Her dreams are quite lucid because she tells me she usually knows she is dreaming and a lot of times can control what goes on in her dreams. I am amazed at how much she can remember about each dream too! She always gives me great detail and will tell me how she changed something in her dream or made it even better just by wishing it. How cool is that?

In regards to the dreams that come true, she honestly doesn't seem to see the connection yet. She talks like they are just really cool coincidences, but I'm beginning to wonder. Could this be a gift? If so, how do I handle this? Do I say anything or wait until she begins seeing it herself?

I would really appreciate any input or advice you guys have on this subject.

Wow that's really cool. I too have very vivid and lucid dreams that I can often control. It kind of goes through stages. I think that she does have a gift but I would let her realize it on her own, but keep incouraging her to tell her dreams to you.

I too think it's a gift. I'd not say anything and allow her to realize it on her own. She will. Like Renee said, keep encouraging her to talk about her dreams and I'd suggest she start journaling them as well.

She might like to try that site that Lefora suggested: DreamJournal.com[/URL]. It's easy to use and is nice because you can keep track of the details/keys of your dreams. It can be made public or private. Also, the people who run that site are tracking lucid dreams, so it would help them as well. Check it out!

Kell

Thanks for the advice guys! I think that is exactly what I will do....let her realize her gift when she is ready to handle it

Kellie thanks for the dream journal site. I'm going to see if she would be interested in keeping track of them. I think she will

Oh and she dreamed last night (friday night) that her and a friend found an elderly lady that we know in a church lying on the floor. When they went to wake her up to see what was wrong, she had died. Strange thing was this deceased lady's name was Fiona, but Jenny said she looked just like our friend Wilma. Well, I have to say this gave me chills up and down my spine. I'm going to call and find out how Wilma is tomorrow (Sunday). I hope and pray her dream was not true this time!

An update on Jenny's dream.....I saw our friend Wilma today and she was okay thank goodness! BUT my great aunt died this morning quietly in her sleep. Unfortunately, we did not know her that well though. Still, I wonder if that is what Jenny's dream was trying to tell her?

Cindy, I'm so sorry about your great aunt. I wouldn't read to much into your daughters dream just yet, it may only be a coincidence-though a striking one. Dreams about death aren't really that uncommon. Did your daughter know your great aunt? If it actually was a prediction I'm wondering if she saw Wilma because that was the closest she could come to some one she didn't really know. It would be interesting to know where the name Fiona came from but I would be hesitant to question her considering the nature of the dream and the reality of what happened. At 13yrs it might be too frightening and difficult to understand, even as adults we don't really understand these things.

I hope she liked the journal website. You might also want to see about getting her a journal to keep beside her bed so that she can write down her dreams and thoughts as soon as she wakes up, it would help with the little details that might otherwise be forgotten. They come in all sorts of styles and it would be a cool Christmas gift.

Renee

Renee, sadly me and the children did not know my great aunt that well because she just never really had much to do with our side of the family. I'm not going to discuss this with her anymore because like you said, death is hard to handle in any capacity, especially for a 13-year-old. I am, however, going to continue monitoring her very vivid and interesting dreams

I'm also going to show her that dream journal site, but I might also get her a really nice dream journal to keep by her bed....maybe as you suggested, as a Christmas gift!

Thanks so much for the feedback

My condolences about your Great Aunt, Cindy. *hugs*

I agree with Renee, I think I'd keep her dream and what happened in mind, but I wouldn't discuss it with her (unless she sees a connection and brings it up).

Kell

I think you should pressure her and get her to use her abilities as much as she can and get her to dream about lottery numbers and post them here.
NOT.

Just kidding Cindy. I think it's wonderful that she can do that. I agree that pressing her on it may make this a painful thing for her. She would then either suffer with it or shut it off. Encourage and support her with it. Help her especially when it comes to things that can be painful like death. Death in dreams is often symbolic like in the Tarot. I had a dream where a body in a shroud kept spinning around and around. I couldn't tell if the person was my grandmother or my father. My grandmother didn't die till several months later, but she did begin losing her lucidity at that time. She didn't die but who she was ebbed away because of her failing brain.

I used to do the same thing as a child. I used to have dreams of all kinds of things, rarely world events, that would later come true.
I would remember dreams of conversations while having the conversation and know exactly what was going to be said next. The same thing about some situations. I noticed that quite often emotions were tied into it somehow. But then there were the dreams of just silly stuff.
I used to dream of becoming someones friend at school who I wasn't friends with and within the week if not the next day that person would want to start hanging around with me.
Unfortunately I didn't have anyone to support me with it. Your daughter is most fortunate to have you as a Mom. And I'm sure not just because of this either.