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hi i just signed up for this because i got a lot of questions... that bother me alot.
my cousin just died in a car crash on 9/30/03
i am still in shock
me and him were very close.
well i am wondering what to do now
i dont know where to start.
will i ever actually see him again?
or is he around?
alot of question
my cousin just died in a car crash on 9/30/03
i am still in shock
me and him were very close.
well i am wondering what to do now
i dont know where to start.
will i ever actually see him again?
or is he around?
alot of question
Hi TinTin and welcome. =) First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't answer your question for certain, but I can tell you what I believe, from my personal experience. The first loss I had in my life, was that of my grandmother when I was 7 years old (we were very close.) I was devestated and had problems dealing with it for awhile. About 6 months or so later, I caught a brief glimpse of her standing in my room. I know in my heart that she "visited" me to reassure me that she was okay and I would be with her again someday. There have been times in my life, when I've felt her presence when I needed it the most. I believe that though people pass to the other side, we do experience "visitations" from them now and again. I'm not talking about "hauntings." And you may not always see them, maybe not always feel them around you...but they are there. I talk to loved ones who I've lost, almost like a "silent" prayer. It helps me feel that they know I still love and think about them. I also believe that our loved ones, will be there to meet us when we cross over. Sylvia Browne writes in her book, Visits From The Afterlife, "God's sacred white light waits to embrace us all at the end of the tunnel, along with loved ones... even our pets are there to greet us, so eager with the joy of seeing us that the human spirits have to wait their turn to get to us." Welcome once again, and I look forward to reading your posts. Happy Holidays to you.
Hi Tin Tin,
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
Like SavannahSilkie, I too believe that our loved ones are around us. I smell my Grandmother's hand lotion from time to time and I know that my Dad was scolding my cat until she learned not to do naughty things behind my back.
I think when you are ready, when your emotions are calmed enough, you might be able to sense your cousin's energy around you. Also, pay attention to your dreams - sometimes the most vivid dreams turn out to be a visitation.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
Like SavannahSilkie, I too believe that our loved ones are around us. I smell my Grandmother's hand lotion from time to time and I know that my Dad was scolding my cat until she learned not to do naughty things behind my back.
I think when you are ready, when your emotions are calmed enough, you might be able to sense your cousin's energy around you. Also, pay attention to your dreams - sometimes the most vivid dreams turn out to be a visitation.
Hi TinTin and welcome. I, too, am sorry for your loss.
I agree with what both Silkie and Connie have said. As for your dreams, in time, they may become more clear to you. It hasn't been very long since your loss and surely your emotions are still running high. You may experience a visitation from your cousin when you least expect it. Just give it time. You can also tell yourself just before you go to sleep that you wish to remember your dream(s). Any time you remember something as you wake up, write it down - it may be a piece of the overall puzzle.
Ghost Hunting or Paranormal Research is, basically, trying to find proof of ghosts (by taking photographs, video, taking readings on EMF meters and other equipment), then documenting the findings.
A genuine orb is thought to be the simplest form a spirit can take when manifesting, and it is also believed that this form takes the least amount of energy for the spirit (vs. manifesting as ecto mist or an apparition).
Kell
I agree with what both Silkie and Connie have said. As for your dreams, in time, they may become more clear to you. It hasn't been very long since your loss and surely your emotions are still running high. You may experience a visitation from your cousin when you least expect it. Just give it time. You can also tell yourself just before you go to sleep that you wish to remember your dream(s). Any time you remember something as you wake up, write it down - it may be a piece of the overall puzzle.
Ghost Hunting or Paranormal Research is, basically, trying to find proof of ghosts (by taking photographs, video, taking readings on EMF meters and other equipment), then documenting the findings.
A genuine orb is thought to be the simplest form a spirit can take when manifesting, and it is also believed that this form takes the least amount of energy for the spirit (vs. manifesting as ecto mist or an apparition).
Kell
and i dont even know where to start
big lost
i think about him everyday.
there is something very freaky about his death too
i will post later.
but sometimes people just say be happy and hes in a better place. he still around
where
i can never feel him or see him or anything.
i just wish i can talk to him
big lost
i think about him everyday.
there is something very freaky about his death too
i will post later.
but sometimes people just say be happy and hes in a better place. he still around
where
i can never feel him or see him or anything.
i just wish i can talk to him
Don't know where to start...... with?
Indeed, just because they're deceased doesn't mean they're *gone*. You two were so close, I think he'll always be with you. You can still talk to him. I know it isn't in person anymore, but you can still talk to him as you normally did. Really.
Kell
Indeed, just because they're deceased doesn't mean they're *gone*. You two were so close, I think he'll always be with you. You can still talk to him. I know it isn't in person anymore, but you can still talk to him as you normally did. Really.
Kell
i am vietnamese and so is my family.
my cousin that died is 21 years old.
he was just going back to college. he lived at my uncles house for one month
then on 9/30 he died. in a car accident
he was he by a drunk driver and he was on other drugs too.
the drunk drove the wrong way on a main interstate and my cousins friend was driving him home at about 1 at night.
on a turn they might
the drunk was going to fast my cousin was sitting in the passenger side.
the drunk hit my cousin first
he died instantly
the driver died 4 hours later in the hospital
the drunk driver was in good condition the next day.
jeez
that sux.
well what was strange was. in vietnam when we went back in the summer of 02
my cousin was only 20
he went with my aunt alone to a fortune teller
these vietnamese fortune tellers are really good
no jokes or lies
they do alot of weird stuff
spend hours with u
well what the fortune teller said to my cousin is
that he is not going to live past 21 years of age.
and if he gets marryed b4 25 he was going to get divorced. my cousin didnt belive in any of that wen they fortune teller told him that.
but guess what the fortune teller said was true
he didnt survive past 21 years old.
i cant belive he died i want to see him again sometimes
my cousin that died is 21 years old.
he was just going back to college. he lived at my uncles house for one month
then on 9/30 he died. in a car accident
he was he by a drunk driver and he was on other drugs too.
the drunk drove the wrong way on a main interstate and my cousins friend was driving him home at about 1 at night.
on a turn they might
the drunk was going to fast my cousin was sitting in the passenger side.
the drunk hit my cousin first
he died instantly
the driver died 4 hours later in the hospital
the drunk driver was in good condition the next day.
jeez
that sux.
well what was strange was. in vietnam when we went back in the summer of 02
my cousin was only 20
he went with my aunt alone to a fortune teller
these vietnamese fortune tellers are really good
no jokes or lies
they do alot of weird stuff
spend hours with u
well what the fortune teller said to my cousin is
that he is not going to live past 21 years of age.
and if he gets marryed b4 25 he was going to get divorced. my cousin didnt belive in any of that wen they fortune teller told him that.
but guess what the fortune teller said was true
he didnt survive past 21 years old.
i cant belive he died i want to see him again sometimes
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I noticed that your last post was on Christmas evening. It seems to make it harder when you hurt and everyone around is happy and having a good time.
You said that you dream about him, yet do not remember the details later. I feel certain that your dreams are your cousin contacting you in a non-threatening way. If he appeared in front of you, it might scare you or make you think you've "lost it". By contacting you in a dream state, you are more relaxed and able to enjoy him being there. Do not worry about not being able to remember what you talked about. Sometimes we do not need to know exactly what was said. I had a dream of my father several years ago where he was in my dream wearing what we buried him in. Along with him was my uncle wearing what we buried HIM in. I got the feeling the uncle was there to validate my father. We sat and talked for a while and I knew the subject was very important, but have no idea what was said. I take it for what it was-my father coming to give me comfort. By the way, I'm as psychic as a stump.
Think of your cousin, pray for him, talk to him, whatever you need to do to make it easier for yourself. I believe death is just another step in life and you will see each other on the other side or in another life.
I wish you peace,
Musicalmama
You said that you dream about him, yet do not remember the details later. I feel certain that your dreams are your cousin contacting you in a non-threatening way. If he appeared in front of you, it might scare you or make you think you've "lost it". By contacting you in a dream state, you are more relaxed and able to enjoy him being there. Do not worry about not being able to remember what you talked about. Sometimes we do not need to know exactly what was said. I had a dream of my father several years ago where he was in my dream wearing what we buried him in. Along with him was my uncle wearing what we buried HIM in. I got the feeling the uncle was there to validate my father. We sat and talked for a while and I knew the subject was very important, but have no idea what was said. I take it for what it was-my father coming to give me comfort. By the way, I'm as psychic as a stump.
Think of your cousin, pray for him, talk to him, whatever you need to do to make it easier for yourself. I believe death is just another step in life and you will see each other on the other side or in another life.
I wish you peace,
Musicalmama
TinTin, First let me say that I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know how hard it is to lose someone so suddenly and unexpectedly.
I have to agree with what everyone else has said. I definitely think that our loved ones are never far from us. I also believe that your cousin has been visiting you in your dreams. It's ok that you don't remember everything about the dream, or what was said, your remembering the important part which is that he is there. As Kell has said, writing down what you do remember when you first wake does help. After my brother passed, I had a few dreams about him where I felt like he was visiting me or coming to say goodbye...but I wasn't sure. I know now that it was really him and he was really there. I still, at times, feel him near me.
I also agree with Kell as far as talking to your cousin. I know it's not in person and it doesn't feel the same, but you can definitely talk to him just as you always have. He's listening.
I have to agree with what everyone else has said. I definitely think that our loved ones are never far from us. I also believe that your cousin has been visiting you in your dreams. It's ok that you don't remember everything about the dream, or what was said, your remembering the important part which is that he is there. As Kell has said, writing down what you do remember when you first wake does help. After my brother passed, I had a few dreams about him where I felt like he was visiting me or coming to say goodbye...but I wasn't sure. I know now that it was really him and he was really there. I still, at times, feel him near me.
I also agree with Kell as far as talking to your cousin. I know it's not in person and it doesn't feel the same, but you can definitely talk to him just as you always have. He's listening.
Hi TinTin,
I also am sorry for your loss. I just lost my Mom last month.
I agree with Trin, get a journal and write down your dreams. You may be getting a message from your cousin in fragments. It might all fit together oneday.
I also am getting messages, but while I am awake. I am keeping a journal as well, so I do not forget them. You think you won't, but you sometimes do.
It's not at all unatural to talk to someone that's crossed over. I also do that alot. And in my heart I do know they hear me.
I hope you find peace. It took me awhile but helping others helped me =)
Take care and God Bless,
Piggerita
I also am sorry for your loss. I just lost my Mom last month.
I agree with Trin, get a journal and write down your dreams. You may be getting a message from your cousin in fragments. It might all fit together oneday.
I also am getting messages, but while I am awake. I am keeping a journal as well, so I do not forget them. You think you won't, but you sometimes do.
It's not at all unatural to talk to someone that's crossed over. I also do that alot. And in my heart I do know they hear me.
I hope you find peace. It took me awhile but helping others helped me =)
Take care and God Bless,
Piggerita
TinTin,
That's a great idea to keep a journal of your dreams and you can also list things that happen during the day that make you think of him. Those could be signs that he's there with you. Also, if you don't feel comfortable talking to him for fear that other's might hear you, write him letters in your journal.
That's a great idea to keep a journal of your dreams and you can also list things that happen during the day that make you think of him. Those could be signs that he's there with you. Also, if you don't feel comfortable talking to him for fear that other's might hear you, write him letters in your journal.
thank you for all your guys help.
i really appreciate it.
i think of him everyday not one day he doesnt cross my mind..
i havent seen him for like a month.
he is finding his way to heaven.
the buddah's way in death is that once u died, if you were good in your lifetime you have to pass alot of journeys to find your way to heaven.
if you did bad things through out your life you will be reborn into anything. a human being again
a dog a cat a tree who knows.
but i know my cousin is taking those journeys and in heaven already.
but what is botheing me is that the monk said dont mention about him alot or be sad. because it will only make him come back just for the sake of us.
i really appreciate it.
i think of him everyday not one day he doesnt cross my mind..
i havent seen him for like a month.
he is finding his way to heaven.
the buddah's way in death is that once u died, if you were good in your lifetime you have to pass alot of journeys to find your way to heaven.
if you did bad things through out your life you will be reborn into anything. a human being again
a dog a cat a tree who knows.
but i know my cousin is taking those journeys and in heaven already.
but what is botheing me is that the monk said dont mention about him alot or be sad. because it will only make him come back just for the sake of us.
TinTin,
It sounds like you are consulting your religious leaders concerning your grief and I think that is great. Youll find that what your Monk tells you may not be what you hear on this board because we are a mixture of different religious backgrounds. We share what we believe in an attempt to help you research your own beliefs and come up with what works for you. We also find that our own experiences sometimes contradict what our religions teach us so you are in good company. Please continue your talks with your Monk and ask him to explain in more detail you might find that what he is telling you will work best for you especially if your cousin was raised in the same culture and religious background. I would also appreciate your sharing with us the information that your Monk tells you. I dont think we have anyone on board that is in a Buddha based religion and it certainly would be interesting to learn about Buddha as you learn.
It sounds like you are consulting your religious leaders concerning your grief and I think that is great. Youll find that what your Monk tells you may not be what you hear on this board because we are a mixture of different religious backgrounds. We share what we believe in an attempt to help you research your own beliefs and come up with what works for you. We also find that our own experiences sometimes contradict what our religions teach us so you are in good company. Please continue your talks with your Monk and ask him to explain in more detail you might find that what he is telling you will work best for you especially if your cousin was raised in the same culture and religious background. I would also appreciate your sharing with us the information that your Monk tells you. I dont think we have anyone on board that is in a Buddha based religion and it certainly would be interesting to learn about Buddha as you learn.