On January 1st,2004 I held my beloved mother as she took her last breaths and passed away at 2pm in my arms. She was fifty four years old. She arrived at the hospital on December 29th with no vitals and remained in the CCU up until her very last moments. They suspect that she had a massive heart attack, but of course cannot say for certain because the fibulators likely caused alot of her damage. Needless to say my mother received no oxygen to her brain for 10 mins- 1/2 hour and the damage was severe. She lay lifeless as the swelling of her brain overtook what modern medicine could do. She was pronounced brain and brain stem dead 27 hours before her heart and lungs finally stopped. She left me behind- her only daughter and two grandchildren that worshipped her dearly. I am devasted and broken- she was not just my mother but my very best friend and I can't imagine how I'll carry on without her. I so wish to see her spirit, to somehow know that she is fine and any suggestions, sites or help would offer me some comfort in this, the darkest day of my life. Thanks for listening.

Hello eyesee, welcome to SpiritKeep. I am so very sorry to hear about your Mother's passing. I know that must have been very difficult for you and your children. ::hugs::

You're in the initial stages of grieving right now and it's absolutely understandable that you want your mother to visit you, however, it is my belief that we need to get through our grief before any visits may occur. If it's to happen, it will happen naturally. Be comforted to know that she'll always be with you whether you know it or not. One good, and safe, thing you can do is to ask her to come to you in your dreams. If it doesn't happen right away, don't give up - just keep trying.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss and wish there was something I could do to take the pain away.

Bless,
Kell

My heart aches for your recent loss. Please accept my deepest and heartfelt sympathies and this simple prayer: Lord let there be peace in my friends heart and mind and comfort my friend in this time of need.

Kell is wise beyond her years and I echo her words of wisdom. The grieving process can not be overstepped nor should it be hurried. Your mother will come to you when the time is right. In the meantime, take the needed and neccessary time to heal the broken heart and make time to remember her wit and wisdom and humor. We're all here for you, kiddo =)

eyes, i am soo sorry to hear about your loss. i can't imagine what you must be going through. i will pray for you and your family. i can understand wanting for a visit. i don't have any experience on the subject, all i can say is keep the faith. with you two being soo close it is no doubt to me that she will be visiting... sending hugs and prayers your way!!!!

Hello eyes and welcome to SK. I too, am very sorry for your loss. I agree with the others in their advice to you. I felt much of what you are feeling now when I lost my grandmother at seven years old. Six months later, she did visit me, and at times I can feel that she is around me now. Remember, as a mother yourself, you know that she loved you just as much, and in a way that only a mother can love. That kind of love trancends time and she is with you, I believe that for certain. Allow yourself to grieve and heal... it will get easier as time goes by. Sending prayers and lots of love your way.

Hello Eyes and everyone,
I just lost my mother this past November 20th. Beleive this or not, her suffering was so that I helped her into the light.
I am a sensitive also. And I am beginning to understand alot of other things right now. I have had my late grandmother's spirit with me since 1974, my late father with me off and on since 1989, he passed in '88. As soon as I came home to pack my bags to go back for mom's funeral I noticed my usual full house was empty. And still is. I know they are with mom helping her adjust.
Give it time. Mom has come to me in my dreams, my sister also.
I am so sorry for your loss Eyes. When the time is right I beleive you will get that visit.
Take care sweetie,
Piggerita

I'm so sorry for you loss! I can't add much more than what the others have said. I believe she will come to you when the time is right! Hang in there sweetie. It will get better =)

Oh, Hon, I'm just so sorry. I lost my own mother a few months ago, and I understand completely what you are going through. I think Kell has given you some great advice. You will in some way communicate with the spirit of your beloved mother, but it will take time. Pay attention to your dreams, write them down. After my father passed on a few years ago, I had several wonderful dreams of him in the months that followed that let me know he was in a better place, surrounded by those he loved. =)

All I can say is I understand- my dad died in about the same way.

She is directly around you now - but your grief which you must experience somewhat deadens the ability to feel them. At least this is what I have found. She is there.

As far as dreams go- it is the primo way for them to contact you and it will take a while- not a year or anything nut maybe 3 -6 months. hang in there. have a paper pad and pen ready as these dreams are often rather surreal- visual as well as verbal messages. it's usually not a sit down converation type of dream. they simply have to communicate in these ways- then it has to filter though the rest of the dream process- therefore the note pad and pen. visual can mean as much as verbal in these dreams.
I hope this helped you a bit. keep in touch with us and remember- you must grieve to heal.

all my best to you- sundog

I am so sorry for your recent loss. You have my deepest sympathies.

I have to agree with what everyone else has already said. I think your Mother will visit when the time is right. Right now, you need some time to begin healing. Although I feel that she is most likely always near. Definitely keep track of your dreams and the little things that happen around you from day to day. I also agree that sometimes the signs that our loved ones are near are very subtle.

Just remember that we are here for you, ready to listen and support when you need us. =)

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is my first post on Spiritkeep but I was drawn to answer it because I could have written that post. My own mother died 3.5 yrs. ago after a sudden illness. My mother has not visited me because she knew that I could not handle it. As much as the subject interests me for other people, for myself I know that I would be much too frightened if someone departed visited me. However, my mother knew this and visited me in a dream, this was about maybe a year or so after her death. In this dream she told me she missed everyone, but it was much better where she was at. The dream was so vivid I wrote it down right away. I was so excited that when I woke up I called my brother and Aunt and told them about the dream and they too were excited. It will come. Good luck to you, I definitely know where you are coming from. My mom was my best friend too.

I'm so sorry that you lost your Mom. Mine's my best friend, so you brought tears to my eyes...I don't know that she'll visit, but I do know that she loves you. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family in this difficult time.

Hello eyes, My name is Barb and first let me say I am so sorry for your loss. I wanted you to know that I just lost my Dad on feb 9th. so I can understand how you must be feeling. The loss of a parent at any age is hard but you must remember how special a person your mom IS, and I say is because even though you don't feel it right now she is around you. You are grieving right now and I know that you are just waiting for a sign from her, because I have asked my dad to show me a sign that he is ok and when what we ask for doesn't come ,well we get a little upset and think that there is nothing on the other side (am I right)? I think you will start to notice the little things at first. Like you have a problem with something and you don't know just how to handle it and then all of a sudden bam it comes to you. Thats the situation that makes you step back and say AHHHHHH ok mom thanks. Example for you the night of my dads wake when we were all getting ready to leave the funeral palor at the last visit my sister who was the closest to my dad broke down and was crying very hard. I got upset, because I love my sister to death and don't like to ever see her cry I knelt down by my dad and asked him to please help her through tomorrow, because she had to do a reading in the church and I thought she would fall apart. The next day came and she was as sold as a rock so I just thanked him for the help and smiled a lot because I knew he heard me. So What I guess I am trying to say here is, don't give up hope and before you know it she will make her presence known to you. You and your family are in my prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father in april of last year and understand how difficult it is. I just wanted to let you know not to overlook the little things. A certain smell, a certain song etc these are all signs. I heard a certain song played the day my father passed which just happens to be called "i'm alive" by pearl jam. I heard this same song every day of his wake and on the day of the funeral. Now anytime I'm worried about something I hear this song. I know it is a sign from my dad that he is looking out for me and is watching. Also, while I was at his home making a inventory of his belongings, when I left I looked in his front yard where he grew flowers and there was a yellow rose growing there. This would not be so strange if it hadnt been in november and very cold. It was just one blossom. I placed a yellow rose in my fathers casket. So please look for signs for comfort. They may be small but they are there. Good luck and my thoughts are with you.

I am so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. I certainly agree with all the advice you have been given. When my Grandmother passed a few years ago, me & my cousin decided to stay in her house overnight. You could feel her everywhere, but at 3AM, we were walking through her kitchen (where she loved to stay), and the most sick smell of White Shoulders (what she always wore) passed over us for about 5 minutes and then it was gone. Ever since, I wake up at that time and don't even have to look at the clock. It's like she is touching me. Wise advise to look out and pay attention to the little things. Take care

I am so sorry for your loss eyes... I have felt this feeling over the years. With the passing of two fathers, 1 I was close to, came to me the night of his funeral to let me know that he was okay and that he would always be there. But, he had to go to learn the next level, but that he would always be here if I needed him, and he always has. I know this, because I can tell when a spirit is near and identify who the spirit is by smell. My father's smell is coffee. A fresh brewed pot will show up out of nowhere-walking in a field of flowers or riding in a car, doesn't matter, if I need him he's there.
The same goes for the rest of my family too! He will always be there to protect and guide us. Even if we don't want him to.
So again my deepest sympathies for you and your family. But know that your MOM will never leave except to learn her new ways and all that she can do now that she couldn't before!!! When she is gone know that you can call her back too!
Also, my father started writing to me back in 1989. I find this to be a great gift from the other side-to be able to contact anyone.
Stay strong she is with you.
Tana

HI,

I am so sorry for your loss, it is a hard time to get through. As you wait for signs that your mom is with you, pay attention to things like if she had a favorite place to sit, can you smell or feel her there? My grandmother passed a few years ago and ever since I can sit in her favorite place on the couch and feel her. I get such a feeling of warmth and comfort when I am there. Keep smiling, she is with you.

Christi