Hey Yall:

I wanted to share this and maybe get some opinions. Most of you know about my friend who passed away this past June. She left the EVP's on my voice mail and has visited me a few times in dreams. Well, I've wrestled with sharing those EVP's with her family for awhile now. Yesterday morning, I left the house early, to go vote. It was just getting daylight here. To go to the voting poll location, I took a little shortcut, and went up the street where she lived. Her family still lives there. I looked at her house, and as I passed it, I almost immediately felt a "presence" in the car with me. Now, this may have been my imagination, but I don't think so. It was overwhelming, but it didn't scare me. Instead, I talked to her, as if she was in the passenger seat, since that's where I felt this presence was. I said ok...I know you're here with me. I ask her to call me again if she could, or visit me in my dreams, because I don't know whether to share those dang EVP's or not. I told her I'm torn about it, not knowing what reaction I will get. But... something is nagging at me to do so. Then I asked her, who should I vote for? Just as quickly as I felt her there, she was gone. Just like when someone has been riding in the car with you, and they get out, and you're alone again. Does that make sense? Anyway, I'm checking and listening closely to my voicemail. I'm really hoping she comes to me in a dream again. In the last dream I had of her, I was driving down the road, and she called me on my cell phone (in the dream.) She and I had this lengthy conversation, just like we used to talk when she was alive. I remember it, but won't go into all the details of that. I don't think these are just dreams, I think they are visitations. I wish she'd give me that red convertible I was driving though. The "dreams" are so vivid, and move me so much emotionally, that I feel she is still around me when I first wake up. I always have to get up, walk around, or just get up and stay up after one of these "dreams." I cannot explain it, but the weekend she died, I felt her around me so strongly that I couldn't sleep, because she was nagging me, not with words, but with feelings; I think to make sure I was going to be at her funeral. (I don't normally "do" funerals, I don't handle them well, and she knew that.) What I'm saying, is that she has a distinct "presence." I don't know what I'm asking from yall, other than to get some feedback. To share the EVP or not to share...that is the question.

Hi Pate,

Gosh I wish I had the answer to how the family would react to the EVP's. I can sure understand your struggle.

I believe those vivid dreams were visits as well. Given that you have had a similar experience in feeling the presence of your friend I also believe your car experience was not your imagination. I think you need to trust your inner voice with this Pate. Perhaps in the coming days while you think this over you will get a sign in your dreams or otherwise to help guide you on this. Then again maybe the car experience was a sign?

Have you had opportunity to visit with the family lately? Maybe if you do go to visit with them you can somehow bring the paranormal/pyschic into the conversation. You are quite involved with SK - you could talk about the site and some of the forums. I would start with a couple like the Great Room, Cool Links or Movies, Books etc. before going into the ones that more relate to spirit etc. I would try to share a couple of stories (you'll know which ones) as the response to them may give you what you are looking for.

Wish I was more help to you on this. Trust your feelings Pate, our initial gut instinct is rarely if ever wrong. =) =)

Savannah,
I know how you feel about getting visitations in the dreaming world. My brother would visit me and play games with me, football, basketball,..and most of the time just hang out with me. As I grew older I understood that his visits were a way of letting me know he was safe, happy, and that he loved me and would be there for me as I matured.
I think your friend understands how much you miss her and wants to let you know she is okay. Those dreams, visitations and 'feelings' are for you only. I believe she wants to keep it personal, just between you and her. She will in turn visit each individual member in her family just the same. I know how tough it can be Savannah. I know someday I will see my brother, but for now I need to keep on going and staying on that chosen path.
Well, sweetie,...Cat is right, you will get a sign and your friend will help you through. For now you have this family here also and we will support you when you need help.
Until next time...and don't stay up too late and snaggin' that LW, okay?
See Ya! =) =) =)

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(((((hugs)))))

Bobbygee

Thank you Cat and Bobby:

I think I will visit her hubby and kids over the weekend. I haven't seen them since the funeral, but I have talked to them on the phone a few times. I haven't walked into her house at all, so not sure how that will feel. I'm used to seeing her little self sittin in her recliner with a blanket and something to drink and her phone on her lap. I'm sure she has visited them in dreams, whether they realize it's a visitation or not, I don't know. She was very well aware of my belief in the afterlife, but I have no idea of her hubby's beliefs. I know her son, who s 17, has had a hard time with her loss. I have 8 copies on cds of the EVPs, because I never want to lose them, and...I figured I'd have a cd for both of her daughters, her son and her hubby, if I ever felt the time was right. One thing that bugs me is that she may have left something on their voice mail as well. They may not have recognized it as an EVP. If I hadn't been open to it, and had listened to so many, I would not have picked up on the first one as being an EVP. That bothers me, thinking I should have shared with them sooner, because I'm sure since 4 months has passed, they wouldn't have them anymore. Maybe the time has come, cause it sure is bugging the poop out of me. I guess I can visit them, get a feel for the sitution, take a cd with me (just in case) and pray for guidance. I sure don't want to upset them. Ok, I'm rambling here or thinking outloud.
Time for Mr. Zippy...

[ November 04, 2004, 05:00 AM: Message edited by: SavannahSilkie ]

Hi Pate
I read about the EVP's your friend left you and I also visited your page on her. I really hope that you get a good reaction from her family, perhaps she has left them some "voicemail" too and I'm sure it would be a comfort to them to hear her own words to them. Good luck with that (I know I'm a bit late to the party) if you haven't already done it. Perhaps they may not understand immediately but given time I'm sure they will come around.

Hi Jessica:

It's good to see you. I haven't shared the EVPs yet, my dad got sick and I didn't get a chance to go over to visit them. I was wondering if you are back home or visiting your parents. I'm anxious to hear what's going on with your ghosties. Keep us posted.

Hugs,
Pate