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Has anyone had a defining moment in their life?
I thought I never had. Sure I had lots of things happen to me that pushed me in one direction or another. Things that have profound affects on my life. But I've recently determinced that I have had only what I can so far call a "defining moment". I haven't always been able to remember it. And even when I did it seemed to be just something unusual and somewhat profound. But I've come to realize that it really is a moment in my life that defines what I believe.
When I was three years old. My parents bought a house (thanks to some minor miracles). We had just moved in. I was standing in the cellar doorway contemplating my life and the structure of my world. I was angry. I was yelling. You see my family didn't live their life like the way I believed it should be. I believed that we need to take care of each other. That we are supposed to nurture and care for each other. These words don't describe well the model of life I saw in my mind. I was in a world where this was not the norm. One of my brothers was standing in the pantry doorway yelling back at me that this is the way it is and you better get used it. I gave him another barrage of how wrong everything is and he hit me with the sound logic of that's just the way it is, like it or lump it. That was his defining moment.
That's been my life. Lumping it. My vision of a wonderful world is where communities get together to raise barns. I've tried to live that way. To help people when they need help. Not always of course. I did learn to get used to much of it.
So it's not like something happened and or I made this big choice that forever dominated my destiny. It's just a moment I can recall that exemplifies what my deepest beliefs are. That boxers are better than briefs.... No that's not it. That the core of who I am is about helping this place be a better world. Through giving, sharing, taking care of others,... .
Like I said, that's not me all the time, I fail all to often, but I try to make sure that the most significant points of time that this me is the one making the choices.
Anyone else have a defining moment? That led you to the path of psychic research? Something you knew that you would be a mommy or daddy? Vocation as a telephone soliciter?
Has anyone had a defining moment in their life?
I thought I never had. Sure I had lots of things happen to me that pushed me in one direction or another. Things that have profound affects on my life. But I've recently determinced that I have had only what I can so far call a "defining moment". I haven't always been able to remember it. And even when I did it seemed to be just something unusual and somewhat profound. But I've come to realize that it really is a moment in my life that defines what I believe.
When I was three years old. My parents bought a house (thanks to some minor miracles). We had just moved in. I was standing in the cellar doorway contemplating my life and the structure of my world. I was angry. I was yelling. You see my family didn't live their life like the way I believed it should be. I believed that we need to take care of each other. That we are supposed to nurture and care for each other. These words don't describe well the model of life I saw in my mind. I was in a world where this was not the norm. One of my brothers was standing in the pantry doorway yelling back at me that this is the way it is and you better get used it. I gave him another barrage of how wrong everything is and he hit me with the sound logic of that's just the way it is, like it or lump it. That was his defining moment.
That's been my life. Lumping it. My vision of a wonderful world is where communities get together to raise barns. I've tried to live that way. To help people when they need help. Not always of course. I did learn to get used to much of it.
So it's not like something happened and or I made this big choice that forever dominated my destiny. It's just a moment I can recall that exemplifies what my deepest beliefs are. That boxers are better than briefs.... No that's not it. That the core of who I am is about helping this place be a better world. Through giving, sharing, taking care of others,... .
Like I said, that's not me all the time, I fail all to often, but I try to make sure that the most significant points of time that this me is the one making the choices.
Anyone else have a defining moment? That led you to the path of psychic research? Something you knew that you would be a mommy or daddy? Vocation as a telephone soliciter?
Dear Nakis,
Hi buddy been a long time! HUGS!
Oh boy do I understand where your coming from. I started out in life thinking I could be the change I wanted to see in the world. I wanted that little white house, with the picket fence and to be normal? At some point in my life (defining moment?) I decided that normal didn't exist in this world. People just acted like it did. Oh, I could go on..........but.....!
I did have a defining moment recently, the beginning of Febuary. It took all of what I know and beleive to get through a horrible time. One of my worst fears in my life has always been someone hurting my sons. I know if I ever lost one of them it would be the end of me.
I won't go into great detail but my 28 year old son went to Venezuela to speak with Chavez on human rights and healthcare. (he's like his Mom,change the world) He went missing for almost three days in Caraccas. He had been robbed on the street a couple days before he went missing.
I had Washington Consulate, the Ambassador and the CIA even wanting to know what he was doing there. He wants to see change in the world and he thinks he can be that change, just like his Mom.
Oh, he did get home safe a week later. In his eyes I could see he somehow had changed, possibly a defining moment for him.
Because you think that there are others out there that feel just like you and someday the world could be the "wonderful place." Its just that life gets in the way.You think all you have to do is reach out? But when you do you find nobody there. Like my son, he went there trying to help poor people and they robbed him?
I do understand where your coming from. It took me months to cash an inheiritance check from my parents. All I could do is look at it and think, "after all your life, this is all there is a check to be remembered by?"
See, told you I could go on and on! LOL It is nice seeng you Nakis!
Hugs
Peggy
Hi buddy been a long time! HUGS!
Oh boy do I understand where your coming from. I started out in life thinking I could be the change I wanted to see in the world. I wanted that little white house, with the picket fence and to be normal? At some point in my life (defining moment?) I decided that normal didn't exist in this world. People just acted like it did. Oh, I could go on..........but.....!
I did have a defining moment recently, the beginning of Febuary. It took all of what I know and beleive to get through a horrible time. One of my worst fears in my life has always been someone hurting my sons. I know if I ever lost one of them it would be the end of me.
I won't go into great detail but my 28 year old son went to Venezuela to speak with Chavez on human rights and healthcare. (he's like his Mom,change the world) He went missing for almost three days in Caraccas. He had been robbed on the street a couple days before he went missing.
I had Washington Consulate, the Ambassador and the CIA even wanting to know what he was doing there. He wants to see change in the world and he thinks he can be that change, just like his Mom.
Oh, he did get home safe a week later. In his eyes I could see he somehow had changed, possibly a defining moment for him.
Because you think that there are others out there that feel just like you and someday the world could be the "wonderful place." Its just that life gets in the way.You think all you have to do is reach out? But when you do you find nobody there. Like my son, he went there trying to help poor people and they robbed him?
I do understand where your coming from. It took me months to cash an inheiritance check from my parents. All I could do is look at it and think, "after all your life, this is all there is a check to be remembered by?"
See, told you I could go on and on! LOL It is nice seeng you Nakis!
Hugs
Peggy
Very interesting topic Nakis. Certainly one that makes you think.
I too understand where you are coming from, I have and do feel it and desire it too. =) Can't even venture a guess the number of times I have envisioned how I wish the world would be. The intense yearning I have felt in wanting to change it and the way people treat one another, how many tears I have shed over the constant reminders that come as rude awakenings that it is nowhere near my dream, and no matter how deeply I desire it, that desire will not change it nor the people within it. Hard to describe really but the feeling of being out of place, not belonging, or fitting in, has crossed my doorstep often. Sometimes in the form of how it sounds, be it with a group of ppl, a particular situation etc, and other times on a much bigger scope which includes a feeling of not being at home. If that makes any sense.
I too have failed at times in not being the person I know I am, allowing others to influence me, and on occasion I influencing another. However for the most part I have stayed true to what I believe, fought for what is right, reached out a caring and supportive hand to others in need (strangers included), and not followed like a sheep down a path I did not want to take simply to fit in.
Hard to pinpoint just one defining moment as I feel I have had more than one, and it's hard to seperate a defining moment from a realization. Two that stand out each told me the same thing and something different. The memories are as clear as yesterday.
The first when I was 9, while on my first real weekend outing away from home. It was a brownie/girl guide camp out just outside a small town which had a camping area along the river. It also had a large swimming type pond surrounded by sand, and a playground and community area that all could enjoy. Upon our arrival we set up our tents, the group I was put with included a cpl girls my age, and 3 older ones. After a day of activity and a very disturbing scene (it's a bit of a long story so will leave it out), we were all read the riot act about not leaving our tents, no horse play, screaming and yelling etc, and were sent to settle in for the night. Team leaders checked the tents to ensure all were in their sleeping bags and give another little do's and dont's chat. Each tent had a little battery lamp (and flash lights) which we were allowed to keep on for a short while to read and get comfy. Shortly after the leader left one of the older girls turned on a little transitor radio she brought (though quietly). She got all us girls to sit in a circle so we could talk etc. One of the older girls was mentally challenged, and the two other older girls started to get her to do silly things. Then the two girls my age joined in and tried to get me to do so as well. I wouldn't. I not only knew it was wrong but was deeply upset by it. They started to taunt me for it but I refused to budge. Before long they talked the girl into dancing in her underwear, I sat and watched them as they laughed and made stupid faces behind her back. The older girl (with the radio) threatened if one of us told the rest would blame her, she would be hated by everyone, and she would get a butt kicking later. Well at the moment I knew if I kept my silence I would be no different then they were, protecting this girl and being her friend was more important than being hated by others who would do this, and hurting another this way would forever be more painful to me than any whopping I would get. I waited a few minutes and then said I had to go to the bathroom, though I planned to go and get the team leader, however I didn't even make it out the tent for as I reached for the zipper up it went by itself, and in popped the head of our team leader.
The 2nd I feel came in my teens when I had a spirit encounter. I realized the unusual things I had felt/sensed before and little things I at times knew (when I shouldn't have) where not just my imagination, and my journey began (and still continues) to understand these experiences, explore that which is innate in us all further, and seek answers. =)
I too understand where you are coming from, I have and do feel it and desire it too. =) Can't even venture a guess the number of times I have envisioned how I wish the world would be. The intense yearning I have felt in wanting to change it and the way people treat one another, how many tears I have shed over the constant reminders that come as rude awakenings that it is nowhere near my dream, and no matter how deeply I desire it, that desire will not change it nor the people within it. Hard to describe really but the feeling of being out of place, not belonging, or fitting in, has crossed my doorstep often. Sometimes in the form of how it sounds, be it with a group of ppl, a particular situation etc, and other times on a much bigger scope which includes a feeling of not being at home. If that makes any sense.
I too have failed at times in not being the person I know I am, allowing others to influence me, and on occasion I influencing another. However for the most part I have stayed true to what I believe, fought for what is right, reached out a caring and supportive hand to others in need (strangers included), and not followed like a sheep down a path I did not want to take simply to fit in.
Hard to pinpoint just one defining moment as I feel I have had more than one, and it's hard to seperate a defining moment from a realization. Two that stand out each told me the same thing and something different. The memories are as clear as yesterday.
The first when I was 9, while on my first real weekend outing away from home. It was a brownie/girl guide camp out just outside a small town which had a camping area along the river. It also had a large swimming type pond surrounded by sand, and a playground and community area that all could enjoy. Upon our arrival we set up our tents, the group I was put with included a cpl girls my age, and 3 older ones. After a day of activity and a very disturbing scene (it's a bit of a long story so will leave it out), we were all read the riot act about not leaving our tents, no horse play, screaming and yelling etc, and were sent to settle in for the night. Team leaders checked the tents to ensure all were in their sleeping bags and give another little do's and dont's chat. Each tent had a little battery lamp (and flash lights) which we were allowed to keep on for a short while to read and get comfy. Shortly after the leader left one of the older girls turned on a little transitor radio she brought (though quietly). She got all us girls to sit in a circle so we could talk etc. One of the older girls was mentally challenged, and the two other older girls started to get her to do silly things. Then the two girls my age joined in and tried to get me to do so as well. I wouldn't. I not only knew it was wrong but was deeply upset by it. They started to taunt me for it but I refused to budge. Before long they talked the girl into dancing in her underwear, I sat and watched them as they laughed and made stupid faces behind her back. The older girl (with the radio) threatened if one of us told the rest would blame her, she would be hated by everyone, and she would get a butt kicking later. Well at the moment I knew if I kept my silence I would be no different then they were, protecting this girl and being her friend was more important than being hated by others who would do this, and hurting another this way would forever be more painful to me than any whopping I would get. I waited a few minutes and then said I had to go to the bathroom, though I planned to go and get the team leader, however I didn't even make it out the tent for as I reached for the zipper up it went by itself, and in popped the head of our team leader.
The 2nd I feel came in my teens when I had a spirit encounter. I realized the unusual things I had felt/sensed before and little things I at times knew (when I shouldn't have) where not just my imagination, and my journey began (and still continues) to understand these experiences, explore that which is innate in us all further, and seek answers. =)
Nakis!!!! Great to see you here! {{{{{{{{Nakis}}}}}}}}
This is a very interesting subject, and I am going to tell about my defining moment, once I have a little more time to evaluate my life, and see if I can find my defining moment. This is not something I can answer without some thought. (I just noticed this post today... sorry for the time lag in answering.)
It is just SO very good to hear from you!! I am delighted to see you posting, and hope to see you a little more often.![[Wink]](wink.gif)
Bright blessings,
Mare
This is a very interesting subject, and I am going to tell about my defining moment, once I have a little more time to evaluate my life, and see if I can find my defining moment. This is not something I can answer without some thought. (I just noticed this post today... sorry for the time lag in answering.)
It is just SO very good to hear from you!! I am delighted to see you posting, and hope to see you a little more often.
Bright blessings,
Mare
Wow this is a great post. i would have to say funny as this sounds my momenet came just a few weeks ago. As many as you have know from posts on here over the past year. In my life I have been throught a great deal ( we all have at sometime or another) I heard we choose our paths then I heard we dont its just fate. I wasnt sure and it always lingered on my mind. If I do this, what will happen? Will it make that big on an empact? Another thing was I was/ (still am a little) bit of a worrier I check everything a few times before I leave the house, my car etc because I have the what if I dont check the front door again or maybe I didnt lock my car when I think i might have. Then after I would feel like some sort of nut and I needed to learn how to relax but I couldnt. Not untill a few weeks ago. I was engaged to be married to whom I thought was the perfect man. I moved 3 thousand miles from east to west coast to be with him ( he's miltary btw)I was not up here long when he got deployed for a 4 year tour of keroa. I found out later he could have turned this down and that he decied to go to "test" out realationship. All he did was grow futher away from me. I was trying to hang on to what we had and act like everything was ok. But i woke up one morning. and realized nothign is perfect in life. I was always trying to be someone I was not. not only with my now ex but with everyone. I am not perfect and I wanted to be just me. I want to find myself and who I am and what I want to become. Since that morning i have gone with the flow, I dont worry over every little thing in life. Of course I am still cautious about people and I go with my gut but i not longer worrying about what people should think of me or my past or what happens. The past is called a past for a reason. Its good to remember the good times we had and friends and loved ones. But I relized theres a whole big old world out there. And I should be myself and I should be loved the way i am. So I'm moving back home to my freinds and family I love and live life to the fullest not hiding behind someone trying to be perfect and worrying about every little thing. My family and friends have already seen a change and love it! And so do I!
Great post Nakis. I just wanted to say Green Witch you brought a tear to my eye. It was like reading my life and how I feel at the present I am so lost. I do not seem to know how to enjoy myself anymore and have lost myself along the way of worrying all too much about the bad of this world and why are people like this and I cannot do a damn thing to change the people that I belive are cruel/evil. I grieve everyday for the thoughts of people who have died under mercyless killings. I fight hard every day just to try and be happy and not think about everyone and everything. But its hard so hard.
I would have to say that I had a defining moment, years ago now. For years I believed that if you had a good soul and good heart that everyone would like you. Noone would ever hurt you. I stuck up for people that never had the courage to do it for themselves. I realised one day after people turned their back and carried on doing what they were doing, after all the months of moaning and backstabbing and finally me standing up for them I got it in the neck. I finally gave in and realised that trying to be perfect for myself and everyone else was not going to work and that I just had to let things be. If I can help with some good old advice I do so frequently but thats as far as I go now.
That for me was one of my most defining moments.
love and light deedee
I would have to say that I had a defining moment, years ago now. For years I believed that if you had a good soul and good heart that everyone would like you. Noone would ever hurt you. I stuck up for people that never had the courage to do it for themselves. I realised one day after people turned their back and carried on doing what they were doing, after all the months of moaning and backstabbing and finally me standing up for them I got it in the neck. I finally gave in and realised that trying to be perfect for myself and everyone else was not going to work and that I just had to let things be. If I can help with some good old advice I do so frequently but thats as far as I go now.
That for me was one of my most defining moments.
love and light deedee