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Through a Rapist's Eyes...
Please read this for your own safety!!!
Guys, please send these to any females that you know and care about.
Ladies, be careful and please share this with all the ladies you know.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
facts:
1. The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or
Other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after
A woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2. The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
around to cut clothing.
3. They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off
guard and can be easily overpowered.
4. The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is
in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5. The number one place women are abduct from/attacked at is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number
three is public restrooms.
6. The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.
7. Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence, but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they usually get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9. These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas or
other similar objects, in their hands, that can be used from a
distance. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these
guys you're not worth the trouble.
10. Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what
time is it, or make general small talk,..... I can't believe it is so cold
out here; we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and
could identify them in a line-up, and you lose appeal as a target.
11. If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell "Stop" or "Stay Back!" Most of the rapists this man talked to
said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
target.
12. If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell, "I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY!" Holding it out will be a deterrent.
13. If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and arm pit
or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. (IF you can get ahold of him.) One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her,
and she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands so that the
guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as
you can stand; it REALLY Hurts.
14. After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's private
parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the
guy and make him want to hurt you more but the thing these rapists told
our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15. When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much
pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly.
16. Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if at all possible. If you
see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may
feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy
really was trouble.
PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW----MOTHERS,
GRANDMOTHERS, FRIENDS, DAUGHTERS, GRANDDAUGHTERS, RELATIVES, CO-WORKERS. IT'S SIMPLE STUFF BUT IT COULD SAVE THEIR LIVES.
SEND IT TO YOUR MEN FRIENDS TOO, SO THEY CAN SEND IT TO THEIR FEMALE
FRIENDS AND RELATIVES
I saw a safety expert on Oprah's show, and he stresses that if someone
gets in the car with you (EVEN WITH A GUN OR KNIFE)
and tells you to drive somewhere, run into a wall, another car, a
lamppost, something! He will more than likely jump out and run as fast
as possible. If he ever gets you in a secluded area, you are DEAD! So
a damaged car is better than being dead.
Please read this for your own safety!!!
Guys, please send these to any females that you know and care about.
Ladies, be careful and please share this with all the ladies you know.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
facts:
1. The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or
Other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after
A woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2. The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
around to cut clothing.
3. They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off
guard and can be easily overpowered.
4. The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is
in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5. The number one place women are abduct from/attacked at is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number
three is public restrooms.
6. The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.
7. Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence, but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they usually get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9. These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas or
other similar objects, in their hands, that can be used from a
distance. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these
guys you're not worth the trouble.
10. Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what
time is it, or make general small talk,..... I can't believe it is so cold
out here; we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and
could identify them in a line-up, and you lose appeal as a target.
11. If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell "Stop" or "Stay Back!" Most of the rapists this man talked to
said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
target.
12. If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell, "I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY!" Holding it out will be a deterrent.
13. If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and arm pit
or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. (IF you can get ahold of him.) One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her,
and she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands so that the
guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as
you can stand; it REALLY Hurts.
14. After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's private
parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the
guy and make him want to hurt you more but the thing these rapists told
our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15. When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much
pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly.
16. Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if at all possible. If you
see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may
feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy
really was trouble.
PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW----MOTHERS,
GRANDMOTHERS, FRIENDS, DAUGHTERS, GRANDDAUGHTERS, RELATIVES, CO-WORKERS. IT'S SIMPLE STUFF BUT IT COULD SAVE THEIR LIVES.
SEND IT TO YOUR MEN FRIENDS TOO, SO THEY CAN SEND IT TO THEIR FEMALE
FRIENDS AND RELATIVES
I saw a safety expert on Oprah's show, and he stresses that if someone
gets in the car with you (EVEN WITH A GUN OR KNIFE)
and tells you to drive somewhere, run into a wall, another car, a
lamppost, something! He will more than likely jump out and run as fast
as possible. If he ever gets you in a secluded area, you are DEAD! So
a damaged car is better than being dead.
Thank you so much, Pandora, for posting this! It is so important for women to be on their guard at all times, especially when alone and in a dangerous area, like parking lots, etc.
An old fashioned weapon that my grandmother from England used to carry was a large hat pin. Easy enough to have handy, and it maybe not even be noticed. They can be decorative, and worn in a lapel or scarf, but pulled out and carried in your hand when you are in a vulnerable area. Stab him in the privates, or even in the eye!! Some of these pins are 5-6 inches long, and very sharp!
I hope that everyone will send this on to women they care about. Post it on your office bulletin board, where employees can read and heed these precautions. I know that most men in the workplace will want to share this with their wives, daughters, girlfriends, relatives, and anyone else who is at risk. Make copies available for them to take with them. Post it in blogs, on websites, message boards and any other places where women will have access to it.
I just can't tell you how important this is. I had a friend who was raped while doing her job as a meter reader for a local utility by a 16 year old boy with a paring knife. She was working in an alley in a residential area. It was in the early morning hours. It has left her with lasting emotional scars.
The police never found the rapist.
Be careful with pepper spray. Wind can cause it to backfire if you have to spray into the wind. You could wind up being blinded yourself, and the attacker may not be effected. So, use it with care!!
I used to carry pepper spray myself when I was working, especially because often my work involved going alone to an equipment building in the middle of the night to supervise an electrical power installation or cutover. If I arrived ahead of the crew, I was alone in at a vacant building & empty parking lot with just a few lights. Some were in bad parts of town, and I was always on high alert with my pepper spray handy. Thankfully, I never had to use it.
Blessings, and stay alert, ladies!
Mare
An old fashioned weapon that my grandmother from England used to carry was a large hat pin. Easy enough to have handy, and it maybe not even be noticed. They can be decorative, and worn in a lapel or scarf, but pulled out and carried in your hand when you are in a vulnerable area. Stab him in the privates, or even in the eye!! Some of these pins are 5-6 inches long, and very sharp!
I hope that everyone will send this on to women they care about. Post it on your office bulletin board, where employees can read and heed these precautions. I know that most men in the workplace will want to share this with their wives, daughters, girlfriends, relatives, and anyone else who is at risk. Make copies available for them to take with them. Post it in blogs, on websites, message boards and any other places where women will have access to it.
I just can't tell you how important this is. I had a friend who was raped while doing her job as a meter reader for a local utility by a 16 year old boy with a paring knife. She was working in an alley in a residential area. It was in the early morning hours. It has left her with lasting emotional scars.
The police never found the rapist.
Be careful with pepper spray. Wind can cause it to backfire if you have to spray into the wind. You could wind up being blinded yourself, and the attacker may not be effected. So, use it with care!!
I used to carry pepper spray myself when I was working, especially because often my work involved going alone to an equipment building in the middle of the night to supervise an electrical power installation or cutover. If I arrived ahead of the crew, I was alone in at a vacant building & empty parking lot with just a few lights. Some were in bad parts of town, and I was always on high alert with my pepper spray handy. Thankfully, I never had to use it.
Blessings, and stay alert, ladies!
Mare
Thank you for posting this Pandora. I have a native american walking stick I use all the time now. It's nice to know that would be a deterrent, just to be seen with it. I can knock someone over the head or poke 'em in the eye (or elsewhere) from about 6 feet away. ![[Laughing]](graemlins/lol.gif)
Seriously, all of this info is helpful and important and I intend to pass it along. Thanks again.
Seriously, all of this info is helpful and important and I intend to pass it along. Thanks again.
It is severely messed up that women have to take in rules like these but everyone should know these forwards and backwards.
Thanks Pandora. I hope no one ever needs to thank you for passing these on but if they do I'm sure they'll be very greatful.
P.S. Punch, kick, stab, whatever to the groin. If the guy doesn't go down you didn't hit him hard enough. Hit him again, hit him harder. But take it from me (everyguy knows how it feels) getting hit square in the groin, you stop thinking about everything else. At least long enough for you to get away.
P.P.S. I never really thought about it but these sick $&$@ers really put a lot of thought into this.
Thanks Pandora. I hope no one ever needs to thank you for passing these on but if they do I'm sure they'll be very greatful.
P.S. Punch, kick, stab, whatever to the groin. If the guy doesn't go down you didn't hit him hard enough. Hit him again, hit him harder. But take it from me (everyguy knows how it feels) getting hit square in the groin, you stop thinking about everything else. At least long enough for you to get away.
P.P.S. I never really thought about it but these sick $&$@ers really put a lot of thought into this.
Maybe some of those pointy-toed shoes that are in fashion would do a great job on an attacker's groin!! However, if you need to run to get away from someone, kick off those high heels, ladies! Who cares if you lose them, if your safety is at stake? You cannot run well in stilletto heels, but they would make a great shin scraper if you are accosted from the rear, and a great hammer for the guy's skull if you can get one into your hand!