umpazumpa, and also... I'm only 2 years older than you. Lol...
In the dream I was shot on the shoulder I was me, wearing my favorite shirt back then (mid-90s) that I still have, although the size is definitely too small for me to wear it now.
In the one I was shot on the side, well, the whole story actually seems like something a man would do rather than a woman, lol. Moreover, the wound was definitely worse and he/I(?) was acting like it wasn't that bad. Maybe not to spook the girl?! I don't know... but I didn't wake up with the feeling I/he died, but rather some long recovery, longer than he expected anyway. I felt like the person who was driving in the dream had a dominant personality. In the house the girl was scared at first when I showed her the wound. Then, although she was very nervous, she did everything he/I told her to do. I/he told her where to look for all that we needed to for the improvised sewing session. After that, she left him/me in the bed to go to another part of the house (don't know which part), like she had to stay away from all this situation she was in.
The house was kinda small, with earthy colors, simple furnitures, but comfy and welcoming. All around the house was countryside, very quiet.
I never really analyzed this dream, but you (and Kell) got me thinking about a bunch of details. The last one is... both dreams happened in a time the relationship with one of my parents was really bad. Actually, it's still going on now, so I'm expecting some other wacky action dream sooner or later, lol.
I could probably quit my veterinarian job and go for some action movies screenwriting? lol
Dang, do you ever have one night without a dream or do you always have at least one? Interesting about the girl!